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One Dead Giveaway A Friend is No Longer A Real Friend
Let me help you save yourself two hours of heartbreak
Hey, friend. Ever thought about the list of the things you’ve forgiven your friends for doing over the years? I know I have mine. For example, it includes forgiving them for:
— Being inconsistent.
— Being a little messy.
— A little rude.
— For changing.
— For no longer being compatible.
But there is one thing that cannot be forgiven.
Frankly, it should not be tolerated. Period.
Friends hurt each other from time to time, it’s natural. Sometimes we say or do something that invades someone's personal space or crosses an invisible boundary. We get offended or hurt and we see how, if not addressed, it changes the whole dynamic of a group setting or the vibe between two people. So what matters is what follows: the call-out and the response.
A good sign of a healthy relationship is usually tested at this point. And if your friend can’t or isn’t willing to listen to your mini-intervention, then it waves huge red flags. I know it did for me recently after a 14-year friendship went quickly down the drain over the one thing that would’ve saved it.
